I am now a mother to 2 boys and I must say, it is tough being a mom and a career woman. I want to climb the career ladder and yet at the same time I want to do everything for my kids and family. I know I can do both and I know by doing both, I will one day collapse and resent myself.
A good friend told me it's OK to ask for help. I have help. My mom and my MIL and I have a maid. My husband does help with household chores and managing the kids esp with the elder one. I just cannot ask for help from my mom and MIL post 730pm on weekdays. To me, it is MY/ OUR responsility to look after our own kids. Not theirs. We choose to have kids, we need to figure out how to manage our time. I look at my mom and she is getting older each day. She likes to go to the mosques and reads the Quran and now is the time for her to do that. I know she loves her grandkids too but I can't take away what she likes to do while I work late or meet with friends or go to the gym after work. That to me is just wrong.
I know I will get through this. I know when hubby says he supports my decision to climb the career ladder, he is really OK with that. I cannot resent myself if I miss Baby Adik's milestones in his first year (like what I did with baby Abang). I must learn to accept that, come to terms with it and move on. There'll be many other milestones as my boys get older. I just have to make sure, I am there to see and experience them.
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We all have to make decisions for whatever reasons... and whatever we decide we just hope it is for the best and we are doing the right thing. Right sista? Climb sista climb and I see you on top of my tree....meditating
ok sista the above is from sista noz lah ah
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